Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Comparison kills!!!

Are you one of those girls who scrolls through Instagram and feels a  little (or a large) pang of jealously when they see a Victoria's secret model in lacey lingerie teamed with a set of enormous wings and never ending legs? That tanned girl with the flawless completion and big brown eyes? Or is it the Brazilian babe that has the desired teeny tiny waist along with the big ass booty? Well then, you're just like a huge percentage of other women out there who feel exactly the same way too.  I myself have been guilty of comparing myself to other girls in a way that has dampened myself esteem in an unhealthy way but I'm learning to change that. 

It's okay to appreciate other women's beauty but never let it take away from the fact that you are beautiful also. As women, we should all embrace our own beauty and our own flaws too because that's what makes you, YOU!! Look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a beautiful, brilliant and bright young lady. The more you do this, the more you'll believe it. Make yourself feel good doing whatever brings you happiness. It's okay to spoil yourself every so often!! If you need a little 'pick me up' go and treat yourself and don't you dare feel guilty for doing so. Whether it's getting your nails done or wearing sexy matching under wear just for you to feel good in. Whatever makes you feel confident about yourself, makes you feel special, do that!! 

Don't strive to be better than the next or prettier than the rest. Instead, be the best version of you and pour nothing but love into yourself. Be your own kind of beautiful and look to the rest as being just that too. When that green eyed monster tries to rear it's ugly head, take a moment and think to yourself, there is no one else quite like me on this planet. Then embrace that feeling and harness the good thoughts that come with it. I'm not saying that I don't feel envy every now and again when I see 'the perfect girl' (in my eyes) plastered across social media, I think it's only natural to feel this way every so often but don't let it consume you. I try not to let it affect me and encourage that you don't either.

I don't know why in this day and age, it's so frowned upon to love yourself? For far too long it's been a sin to put yourself first or appreciate yourself in the slightest. But I believe that the stigma around self love, self worth and self acceptance is slowly but surely being broken. So what if a girl wants to post a selfie because she feels good about herself?! Or maybe she doesn't but she still chooses to post one anyways. Either way it's okay. Do what makes you happy and stop worrying about what the next girl is wearing, saying or doing. Put the focus back on the most important person, YOU!! All in good time, you'll be amazed at how good you will feel when you appreciate another persons beauty but also make sure you worship your own. 

One thing I've learned is that it's not healthy to see yourself as being like another when you have so much potential to be such an amazing individual. Concentrate on you and don't be too hard on yourself if you're overthinking and comparing because God knows it's hard to block it out completely. Over time you'll understand how damaging it can be and you just won't allow it to happen any more. You have the ability to transcend your own expectations of yourself so why not make a start today!! I'm urging you all, let's stop the comparisons and if you must, then compare yourself to you, yesterday. Improve on that person and don't measure your beauty to another. Inner happiness shines through so once you accept yourself for who you are, you'll find it hard to waste precious moments comparing yourself to strangers. 

" Happy girls are the prettiest girls" - Audrey Hepburn 

Much love,

Ashley x 

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